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20 Things You Should Know about Your Pastor

Here are twenty things I believe are true about most pastors I know. I hope you will work together with your pastor for the good of the gospel!

1. He loves God and you a lot. (Be mindful.)

2. He is a painfully limited human being. (Be realistic.)

3. He probably has a pretty low view of his “performance”. (Be kind.)

4. He wishes he were a better preacher. (Be awake.)

5. He really does want God’s best for you and your family. (Be open-hearted.)

6. His work knows no time or locational boundaries. (Be patient.)

7. He hears much more negative information than positive. (Be encouraging.)

8. He has chosen a vocation in which few remain. (Be praying.)

9. He has chosen a highly leadership-intensive call. (Be lead-able.)

10. He needs help. (Be available.)

11. His God-given vision is bigger than himself and the church. (Be faith-filled.)

12. He wants to personally meet all the needs, but knows he can’t. (Be understanding.)

13. He’s going to say some dumb things every now and then. (Be forgiving.)

14. His family is patient with you, so be patient with them. (Be conscientious.)

15. He is greatly encouraged by your faithfulness. (Be there.)

16. He is passionate for God’s Word to be made practical to you. (Be hungry.)

17. He longs for church to be your spiritual oasis. (Be loving.)

18. He dreams for your and your family’s spiritual health. (Be receptive.)

19. He needs to hear that you prayed for him. (Be interceding.)

20. He’s just a regular guy. (Be real.)

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  • Thank you Cary for your thoughts–this was both realistic and encouraging to me heart as an assistant pastor. God bless!
    In Christ,
    Harvest Bible Church
    Lancaster, PA

  • Pastors are a gift from God – it seems so easy to look at a precious gift from a loving father and say ” I wanted a toy!”. And like any precious gift – the children of God learn that we have been given a gift and how our families prosper or perish depends on how we respond to this treasure.

  • Thank you for this! I would love to see a corresponding list for pastor’s wives. 😉 <

  • I was wondering if you had in the past posted similar questions for the pastor? These suggestions would be great for him to try to accomplish toward his members, as well….We are all sinners…We all need to be reminded of that fact….

  • Great post! Sometimes it seems the only one encouraging the pastor is his wife… and in a culture that is quickly becoming anti-church, often the pastor feels he’s fighting the battle alone. My husband loves the Lord and His church and will preach until He calls him home! Thanks for the kind words of encouragement!

  • What a great list! Sharing this list on our church FB page as soon as I finish typing this message! 🙂

    I’m a regular person (not a PW or PK), and I know-for-a-fact that pastors respond to encouragement from parishioners (and that they’re MUCH harder on themselves than we are on them!).

    One thing you could add to this list: He loves to discuss Scripture and field odd questions over and above the regular stuff in Bible class. He loves knowing members are reading their Bibles–and is willing to discuss your insight, questions, and what the Holy Spirit has shown you in recent passages.

    God’s blessings on your blog!

    Deb in WV


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