Guarding Your Heart for a Wonderful Someday!
People have asked for years if we would do a book to teenagers and college students about guy/girl relationships. It wasn’t until Pastor Chappell approached me about working on this project with Pastor Mike Ray that I really thought seriously about it. What a privilege to work with a good man like Mike Ray on such a needful topic. Well—this book is half of the outcome!
When we met nearly a year ago to plan the contents of this book, we determined that God’s plan for guy/girl relationships was distinctly different to two very different groups of young people. To those too young or not quite ready for a serious relationship, His message is one of extreme patience, caution, purity, and authority. Yet, many who are in their twenties are seriously looking at developing a healthy relationship leading to marriage. These are two distinctly different relationships, and one book could not adequately address both types.
And so, we decided that two books were in order. This is the first, and it’s applicable for any young adult who isn’t quite ready to head into engagement and marriage.
I just received the first copy of this book off the press, and I am very thankful to have been able to work on it with Pastor Ray. Just Friends is about 234 pages, paperback; and it has three parts. Part One—See the Big Picture—deals with keeping the long-term in view when it comes to having friendships. God is preparing you for a wonderful someday—the right person at the right time! Part Two—Make Big Choices—contains eight big decisions that every young person must make in governing their youthful guy/girl friendships. This section covers topics like purity, family, physical contact, emotional dependency, etc. Part Three—Get the Details Right—contains six chapters filled with practical insight and instruction on how how to handle guy/girl friendships so that they are pleasing to the Lord and honoring to spiritual authority.
This book isn’t about dating, yet it acknowledges that guy/girl attractions are a normal part of the teenage experience and should be handled biblically and wisely. It is about becoming the right person so that you will be prepared for the right person at the right time. The title “Just Friends” comes from that famous phrase that all young people use at one time or another—”we’re just friends!” It’s a serious book, filled with biblical principles and occasional humor.
Every few chapters includes a “Think About It” study guide for personal application. For young adults who desire to truly prepare their hearts and guard their friendships—these principles will encourage and equip. It’s also easily teachable for those in ministry. It’s a book that young adults can enjoy and spiritual authorities can appreciate. Hopefully it will serve to bring young adults and their parents together on these matters. We sincerely hope it will be a great blessing and used by God to strengthen young hearts.
It will be available on March 23 at www.strivingtogether.com
Interesting things in this book:
• A Biblical Description of Godly Friendships
• An Expose of Hollywood’s Lies and God’s Truth
• A Study of the Seeds to Sow to Reap a Great Marriage
• 17 Signs of Emotional Dependency
• Principles for How to Manage Strong Emotions
• 14 Dangers of Moral Impurity
• 15 Things that Lead to Moral Failure
• The Double Dead End Road of Physical Contact
• The Differences Between Lust and Love
• Practical Guidelines to Becoming the Right Person
• Advantages of Being “Just Friends”
• Guidelines for Setting a Healthy Pace
• And Much More…
By the way—the second book will be called “More Than Friends” and will deal with developing a healthy relationship that could lead to marriage.